The Herb Files (part III)

It's been awhile since I wrote anything about my dad Herb and going back to Vermont this past weekend made me remember some things. The funny thing is that to me his "eccentricities" are probably pretty prevalent amongst fathers in the baby boomer generation but as an economist and being around college students you would think he would be a little bit more hip at this point.

The first thing is a mis perception about price. Perfect example was me getting some very nice new Patagonia shoes for $60 and upon bringing them home he remarked, "I've never spent more than $25 on a pair of shoes in my life, that's outrageous." Now this obviously can't be true first of all and second of all he then proceeded to give $60 for gas money as I left to go back to Boston without any hesitation. So it's obviously not about cheapness it's just that every day there's probably a new item in his life, or I should say category of items, like shoes for instance, whose price seems unreasonable. Clothing in general really is the big category here but there are many others.

The second thing also has to do with inconsistencies - and that being in the field of technology. Herb does know a good deal about computers, Blue-Ray, and flat screen TV's but when it comes to checking his messages on his cell phone or sending a simple text message he is clueless. I can't figure out whether it's a lack of motivation and interest or really an ineptitude at figuring out the small buttons. It's not that I'm that embarrassed for him about this...but it was pretty amazing that when I came home talking to him while driving the other night he kept talking after I hung up. How do I know this? Because I pulled into the garage (in which he was standing and speaking into his cell phone), rolled down the window, hung up my phone, and while I proceeded to finish our conversation from a large and very noticeable car with him standing 5 ft. away from me, he continued for a few minutes to respond not looking at me and still speaking into his cell phone as if I weren't there.

Is there any way to bring these people into the new century?

A Study of Contrasts

The last few weekends has been a tale of many lives for me, or maybe more since I seem to cross a few different crowds these days.

The weekend before last I went to see Phish in Albany NY for two nights. The "scene" is perhaps the least enjoyable part about seeing Phish and I had almost forgotten about this until I realized that my friends are part of the scene. Let's just say it's not always about the music for everyone there. In the past I didn't know they were referred to as the "nitrus mafia" and that other people are actually blogging about this. It just seems stupid to me. So anyways, Saturday during the day we had time, well actually the whole day to kill and let's just say there's not a whole to do in Albany, NY. After a leisurely 11:30 am wake up I was trying to inspire my crew of 7 or so dirty and smelly male comrades to leave the trashed hotel room we were staying in to do something, anything really, and not a single one of them seemed to have any interest in moving. On the contrary, they seemed content with watching Ritchie Rich, Blade II, and then Blade 3 Trinity, and a number of B movies while ordering pizza for breakfast. I couldn't take it so I left to check out the local food co-op since I had previously heard about it and wanted some real food.

My timing was impeccable: 12:30pm Saturday's just happens to be the time for a free half hour session of "Yo Ba" Chi Gong, which to my luck was open to the public. This is the description from the co-ops website of this class:

"Join Unchatwa (aka Tim Stoddard) on a gentle journey for health and vitality. An eclectic fusion of Pasha (gentle heart) Yoga and Ba Gau Zhang (8 palm change) circle walking with kidney cleansing Chi Gung to cleanse the blood, tonify the kidneys, and energize the body, mind and spirit."

Wow - if I had to describe food co-ops to someone and the people there - I would use the exact above description to offer a really poor stereotype of a co-op shopper. While I am pretty open to anything, this is not something I would normally do but having nothing to do in Albany for the day and thinking about the disgustingly dirty room of friends awaiting back at our cheap hotel I decided to give it a try. I actually felt a lot better afterwards, although it was pretty strange - of course I never heard the end of it when I got back to the hotel room, which to no surprise did not see any movement until the show at night except the brief walk to buy snacks from the gas station across the street.

Last weekend I went to NYC and joined my friend's holiday party (he works for Sungard Financials) at Bryant Park. Luckily we are the same size and I could borrow some clothing since I forget that my workplace is very different than a lot of my corporate contemporary's and I had to snag a nice shirt, pants, and tie (when it's warmer I sometimes go to my work in my Cameroonian shorts by contrast). While they didn't ask who I was to get in since I guess I looked the part, this was one of the most extravagant work party's I've ever been to. Catered and delicious meal with the type of deserts you see in commercials, multiple open bars, beautiful roof-top deck view of, the Manhattan downtown, and a solid DJ spinning tunes all night. I was actually in New York for a retreat for a group I volunteer with called CISPES (Committee in Solidarity with the People's of El Salvidor) - man I am really taking a turn to the left lately...and it was such a contrast to be with this radical leftist group the next day, who probably mostly are anti-consumerists and work for non-profits (or are unemployed). We did exercises such as "activist yoga" and "anti-oppression workshops." My friend would probably have felt pretty weird there and he's also a pretty open guy.

Finally, just to top things off on my way back Sunday night I stopped in Springfield, MA and wondered upon the most amazing and unexpected restaurant ever called Teresa's Soul Food. at 10 pm Sunday night I couldn't believe there was anyone there but Teresa, just returning from church, bounced right in and started cooking up some great candied yams, collard greens, and Southern Fried chicken while a huge bible lay open on the restaurant counter (it was kind of diner style). She put on gospel music on the CD player, fried up some cat fish as samples while we were waiting and persisted in trying to get us to try the pig feet. The obvious point of contrast here was that you wouldn't normally associate Springfield, MA with great soul food cooking - and even though we were the only people in the place, the food was really amazing. I highly recommend the stop if you ever for whatever reason find yourself in Springfield, MA 10 pm on a Sunday night. And if you ever the opportunity to do Yo Ba" Chi Gong, I say take it. Why not? You only live once and you don't need to go abroad to see the incredible diversity of layers that exist right here within our own society

Birdie in the Nest

Growing up I always was told by my mom that this was one of our family recipes so I assumed it was special. I've always loved Birdie in the nests but then later on found out that lot's of other people eat them too. I've heard lots of names for them too including:

Egg Island

Eggie Weggy (England)

Toad in the Hole

Egg in the basket

And just now I check in Wikipedia and they've got also:

It is also known by a large number of alternative names, examples being "Rocky Mountain toast",^[4] "moon egg",^[5] "egg-in-the-hole"^[6], "One-eyed Jack",^[7] "Bird's nest"^[8] and "frog in a hole"

So somewhat disappointing, but it still is bomb and I highly recommend this to my readers

The Return of Trainwreck

Picture above may or may not exeggerate age of average tennis player at the Sportman's Tennis Club in Dorchester, MA

So last night I made my 2nd appearance (group hit night) at the Sportsman's Tennis Club in Dorchester, MA. It's the only club of I know of in Boston that's relatively affordable. I guess I am back on the courts again after a long hiatus (except for a few good stretches during the warmer months of the year) and thinking about joining. These guys also do league play which is cool and I can represent Boston.

It's funny - I've never really thought about rankings and levels (3.0, 4.0, etc.) but now I need to. What's also funny is that this group, maybe around 20 strong, is mostly a bunch of old men who play some good old man tennis. Last night I played doubles and felt pretty shaky. These guys do not look like they should be that good but they are deceptive and play smart. In addition when you move indoors the balll just seems to skid and move a lot faster. These guys are probably not serving more than 70 mph but it feels like 100 mph.

It's funny how quickly I revert to old habits. I know I can play the game, but the minute I get on the court, especially with new players, I start second guessing myself. I have always been this way - a real headcase. When I am confident - I can hit ridiculous shots that I should not be able to hit but the opposite is also true and I don't what's in my genetics that playing with a bunch of average old men can make me so nervous.

In general, I think having some competition and being challenged with some stakes are a good thing to have on a weekly basis in your life. It keeps things interesting. And yet I'm not gonna lie by saying it wasn't somewhat of a relief to graduate MAC and not have to think about playing another match there again in my life and the thought of playing in a competitive league again makes me think again about how quickly "Trainwreck" (my college alter-ego) could return.

Weekend fun

Many of you (and by many I mean probably no one) might wonder what I do with myself in Boston on the weekends. I can't say this was the best weekend I've had in awhile, but here goes a few highlights:

Friday
I get home from work to entertain a visitor from a non-profit soliciting me to get involved with anti-bottled water campaign. This same group sent someone to my house on a similar occasion a few months ago with similar results. For the second time in a row, they send a beautiful young woman around my age who does an amazing job at acting (or maybe not acting) genuinely interested in my life, my work, and being as friendly and nice as possible. How could I say no? After already becoming a monthly donor this new one fished a one time donation out of me - this is exactly why 90% of their office is probably young hot females.
I then went to a Harvard law party (I have a friend there) - unfortunately the lights were very bright, the punch was warm, and the music was awful. Since I wasn't in anyone's "section" I felt a little out of place. You gotta be open to new ideas and you never what experiences life will throw at you - this time not a whole lot but who knows if I went to 10 Harvard law party's what could happen?
Saturday
Went to a few party's and after figuring out it wouldn't be smart to drive home I drank some more -It always takes one of these moments to later remember why you shouldn't do this. Just a word of advice here - I would advise against taking a shot of flaming Sambuca (and doing the sniffer)-I hate licorice and when drinking beer all night it just doesn't seem to fit. Anyways, this is probably what made me sick and it's been awhile since I really felt it so bad. It probably didn't help that I was the only one in the house without a bed or couch and slept in a half curl in a chair.
Sunday
Not much to report except my pancakes debacle in the morning (I was in so state to be cooking in all fairness):
1 cup of pancake mix, 1 cup of milk, 1 cup vegetable oil
Wait a second, did I just say 1 cup vegetable oil? I meant 1 TBSP - too late. I ate 2 crispy pancakes oozing with oil that almost made me run to the bathroom again mid-way through the 2nd pancake.
I proceeded to spend the next 3 hours curled up in the fetal position in my bed having a hard time deciding whether my it was my head pounding or my stomach clenching harder.
According to my brother, 1 cup of vegetable oil is more than you normally consume in a week - it's like eating a full stick of butter or something.
I eventually forced myself out of bed at around 3 because it was so beautiful outside and generally I think being in bed doesn't actually make you feel better. They weren't my best 9 wholes of golf but I got through them.

You can't say I don't live an adventerous life

Monsey, New York

I recently visited the great large apple of NYC and the beautiful state of New Jersey on a recent sales trip. One of the highlights was seeing my rabbi friend Heshy in Monsey, NY. Since it was the night before Sukkot - Heshy wanted to take me out and see the community and how different it would be for someone like me coming from a secular background.

Joseph Berger of The New York Times said in a 1997 article that Monsey in the 1950s "was a small rustic intersection with a single yeshiva." By 1997 Monsey had 112 synagogues and 45 yeshivas (Wikipedia).

I saw a number of interesting things but surprisingly my biggest cultural shock moment was going to the Orthodox supermarket at about 11 AM on a Thursday night, bussling with people. This 100% kosher supermarket was, not joking, a slightly reduced in size version of Cosco. My friend is not Hasidim (see pic. above) but almost all of the other shoppers were (and were men). The majority of these folks speak the dying language of Yiddish while the people working there were almost all Spanish speaking. Given the product mix - which was also almost entirely foreign and in Hebrew and the noise level of so many people speaking and yelling things accross the aisles at once, I really thought I was in another country. I also wasn't sure whether my Spanish or Yiddish needs more improvement - oy gevalt what am I saying I don't speak any Yiddish!

Anyways, I'm walking around in awe when all of the sudden I get hit with the worse heart burn (reminescent of a previous occassion - I should probably do something about this at some point) and fell to the floor clutching my chest in pain. It wasn't like I wasn't already receiving a wide range of stares dressed and looking the way I was. After Heshy finally found me and finished his shopping we were able to leave with only slight embarresement. No one did offer any me help, Sukkot was too soon around the corner (actually I sort of ran off an hid between cash registers in a crouched position)
This entry finally connected my two favourite things to write about - heartburn and Judaism. Coincidence? I hope not

My Top 5 Cities

I'm heading home on the Bolt Bus from NYC right now and thought I'd use their free wi-fi to write a quick blog entry - it's crazy that they have this bus now and it's not anymore $$ than the Chinatown bus (and your bus will not explode into flames mid-way).

I had a few days in Jersey for a business trip and in the past have used this opportunity to visit friends in NYC. This time I kind of wanted to get back to Boston and it made me realize how this has become my new home and how much the city's grown on me. It's still not my favourite - in fact right now, at least for cities in the U.S. (plus Montreal since it's close to where I grew up) it might go something like:

1. Montreal*
2. New Orleans
3. Burlington***
4.Minneapolis/St. Paul
5. Pittsburgh/Madison (tie here)
*The one caveat with these ones is in the winter they probably doesn't even make the top 5 because it's so cold.
***Not because it's cold but because of all the annoying UVM students is really only #3 because of it's amazingness in the summer

NYC is a tough one because it goes from 1 to last so quickly from moment to moment - it's just such a crazy place that has extrreme potentials for coolness or terribleness and it's different every time I go. Pittsburgh is surprisingly very cool - lot's of hills, up & coming with very affordable living (and bars), lots of artsy type stuff going on - give it a chance it will surprise you. I imagine Philly and Portland would make the list if I spent more time there. Tuscon is cool too - but doesn't seem really together like a lot of places out West you need a car so it gets cut from the list.

I feel pretty lucky that I've been able to go to a bunch of Red Sox games, see a few shows, go on a few adventures, and many times at-the-last minute, which is much harder to do in NYC. So for now I'm sticking around and hoping that winter won't suck too hard